Doc Love (also known as Thomas Hodges) is an internationally known dating and relationship coach for men. His insight and wisdom come from interviewing more than 10,000 women over the last 35 years and asking fundamental questions about why a woman chooses to leave one man and stay with another. He has also interviewed several men who are ‘naturals’ in this area and never have a problem getting and keeping women.
Doc Love’s exhaustive analysis of the information gathered from his interviews has culminated in 4 volumes of work:
- THE SYSTEM – THE QUOTE DICTIONARY
- MASTER I
- MASTER II
- MASTER III
THE SYSTEM – THE QUOTE DICTIONARY is the foundation course that lays the foundation for everything else. Once the student (whom Doc Love refers to as ‘Spartan-In-Training’) fully internalizes it, he can move on to the Advanced Mastery Series.
THE SYSTEM – THE DATING DICTIONARY covers some specific concepts and ingredients involved in the dynamics of any relationship. Some of them are the following:
Interest Level: Just as location is everything in real estate, a woman’s interest level is everything in the dating game. Interest Level (IL in short) basically refers to how strongly she is attracted to you.
When his IL is high, he makes everything easy for you, does anything to make you happy, and always finds a reason to be with you. On the other hand, when his IL is low, he starts coming up with some interesting excuses to avoid being with you. The level of interest is a dynamic factor and the actions of the man will determine whether it goes up or down.
Challenge = How difficult it is for women to conquer you. If you only fall in love with an attractive woman, then you are not a challenge for her, because she does not need to do anything to win you over! Instead, if you set your standards higher and expect not only physical attractiveness, but also proper respectful behavior, honesty, integrity, and a flexible attitude, then she needs to work that much harder to win you over. In the latter case, you are showing more defiance.
Confidence: This has two subcomponents – Self Confidence and Self Esteem.
Self-confidence = How strongly you believe in yourself. While it’s possible to ‘fake it ’til you make it’, real confidence comes from knowing the product of life in general and women in particular…and your demonstrated skill in applying it.
Self-esteem = How much you value yourself. This is where it’s important to say no to a woman from time to time, especially when you know she’s asking for something that would compromise your integrity. Women often do this to test you! But if you stand your ground on such occasions, his IL rises. On the other hand, if you give in, his IL drops.
Control: This has three components: Patience, Self-Discipline, and Self-Control (note that this is not referring to controlling the woman, which is really impossible!)
The 3 C’s mentioned above – Challenge, Confidence and Control – are the steely masculine traits that raise a woman’s Interest Level. A man needs to practice them all together to raise a woman’s Interest Level. If his interest level drops, there’s a good chance he’s missing at least one of the 3 C’s.
Once a woman’s Interest Level rises above 95%, you can never go wrong in her eyes! And that’s where you need to be to have a happy relationship. However, there is also a set of male velvet traits that you should practice to keep his interest level high. These are: Affection, Respect, Romance and Humor.
If you don’t practice these velvet traits, your level of interest will drop.
THE SYSTEM – Doc Love’s DATING DICTIONARY focuses more on long-term relationships than short-term flings. And to have a happy relationship that lasts a lifetime, Doc Love teaches you that in addition to measuring a woman’s level of interest, you must also measure her attitude.
To be more precise, you date his level of interest, but you marry his attitude.
When it comes to a woman’s attitude, she needs to have the following non-negotiables:
- She must be self sufficient
- She must have high self-esteem.
- She must have a flexible nature.
- She must be a giver
- You must have integrity, which in turn means loyalty, honesty and trustworthiness.
Keep in mind that a woman may have a very high level of interest in you; but if she has a lousy attitude, it will only end up lowering your level of interest in her in the long run. And this can make you miserable, especially if you get stuck in a loveless marriage.
THE SYSTEM – Doc Love’s DATING DICTIONARY also teaches you that once a woman’s IL drops below 50%, it can never go back up. So the relationship is over for all practical purposes. However, while most men would leave a relationship when their IL drops below 50%, women generally wait until their IL drops below 40%, due to their nesting nature.
And it can take a long time… possibly more than 10 to 20 years for this to happen (ie for your Interest Level to drop from 49% to 39%). But during this period, he has almost zero chance of reviving his attraction to you. The relationship becomes routine, and yes, you will have to put up with their incessant nagging, arguing, tantrums, and general disrespectful behavior.
But once it drops below 40%, it has already built up enough resentment and hatred towards you that it compensates for the nesting factor… and consequently becomes extremely cruel! This is when you hear that many men have been falsely accused of rape, abuse or domestic violence and have been sent to jail on false charges! I’m sure you must have met at least one friend of yours who went through this ordeal. Pretty scary stuff, huh?!
So if you want to avoid visiting a vicious anti-male family court; or shell out tons of cash to divorce attorneys; or lose your hard-earned money and house to a ruthless ex-wife; or lose custody of her children; or lose your sanity in general, you definitely need to be equipped with superior knowledge of women and dating.