This is the second article in a series. We already decided that you are dealing with a loss this year. Now, we have to decide how you want to face the holidays. By this I mean, do you want to talk about your loss or don’t you want to talk about it? Let’s go over 3 different things you can do to help you get through the holidays.

1. Many times people automatically think or expect you to talk about your loss when you may not want to. Either way it’s up to you. It is healthier to talk about your loss. It is very healing. It’s much healthier than keeping all your emotions bottled up inside until you finally have to explode, so to speak. Allow yourself to talk about vacation memories, especially if your loss is that of a loved one. commemorate them. Remember them. We like to talk about our family members who have passed away and keep them in our thoughts during the holidays. Again, this is very clear emotionally.

2. That makes me laugh. Laughter is still the best medicine. The more you laugh, the better you feel. Laughter is contagious. However, so is negative energy. Stay away from the negative and stay around happy, positive people who will help you laugh. Get a few people together, or even just you, and watch funny movies. Laugh Till You Cry.

3. Have fun. Be creative. Hopefully, she has decided that she will talk about losing her over the holidays. By this, I don’t mean that’s all you’re talking about. I just want to say, when the conversation comes up, you can free your thoughts, and not just sit in an annoying corner all the time. So, allow yourself to have fun. Get creative with the holidays. Give a gift. If you love baking and have fun doing it, bake something that everyone can enjoy. You can then enjoy watching them enjoy themselves. Paint a picture, take a picture, write, whatever is fun for you.

This is the moment you need to decide how you want to approach the holidays. Make it relaxing and allow yourself to enjoy it and express your feelings in creative ways. You are allowed to enjoy yourself and have fun and don’t let anyone tell you that you shouldn’t.

Now you are one step closer to dealing with the holidays. The next article to help you get through the situation will be about visualization to help you get through the holiday season as well.