Breakups are rarely a good thing. This is particularly true if you are a man hopelessly in love with a woman who no longer wants to be with you. When she says that she’s done, you can probably feel your heart break and your future fall apart. The normal route to take after a breakup is to grieve for a few months and then move on. You are likely to compare every woman you date in the future to the one that got away. Instead of living with the regret of never trying again, why not do whatever you can to win her back?

There is a common misconception that once a relationship is over, it is over forever. Many couples meet again after a time apart, and the reason is that one of the two knew what to do to make it happen. It may seem like the way to win her back once she says it’s over is to beg for a second chance until she gives in and gives it to you. This approach will almost always result in convincing her that she did the right thing by ending it. Women don’t want to be with men who beg and plead, they want to be with men who are strong and emotionally stable.

Respecting his decision to break up when he says it’s over should always be your first move. You have to agree with her that you need some time apart. Don’t go overboard and tell him you think this is a great idea. Just tell him that a little distance would be good for both of you and you’ll use the time to think. That single statement will do wonders when it comes to getting her back. Every time a man says that he needs to think, the woman in her life begins to figure out what it is. If you seem in control and okay with the breakup, she’s going to eat your ex away.

Don’t make the mistake of trying to make her jealous in order to win her back. This is a very bad idea for several reasons. Once your ex girlfriend sees you with another woman, she will never be able to get that image out of her head. If you want to win her back, focus on yourself instead of other women. Do whatever you can to improve your own life so your ex will be impressed. You want to show her what she’s missing.