Jealousy is a toxic and debilitating emotion, causing damage to any relationship when jealousy rears its ugly head. Jealousy leads to hurt, anger, and other destructive behaviors that ultimately harm yourself and the relationships in your life. For example, you won’t run up to her neighbor and yell at her for buying a new car, but you might fight with her partner because her family budget doesn’t allow her to buy a new car.

Take this quiz to assess your level of jealousy.

1. Your best friend’s husband just gave her a stunning 10th anniversary wedding ring. You’ve been married longer, but you still have the same modest ring. You:

A. Don’t talk to your friend for a while. You are too embarrassed that she has something you want.

B. Tell her how beautiful it is and joke with her to put a few good words on your husband.

C. Complaining to her husband that her friend’s husband loves her more and insists that she upgrade her ring soon so she doesn’t seem so unloved.

2. You and your best friend are going to a party and she looks hot. You:

A. They are upset, especially since they had agreed to go informal.

B. Yelling at him for breaking the dress down agreement.

C. Tell her how sexy she looks and ask her where she got the sexy skirt from.

3. You found out that your coworker received a significantly higher raise than you did, even though they both have the same rank. You:

A. Tease your coworker about how they should do the next solo project since it’s better, but never bring it up again.

B. He is happy for his coworker. It seemed to go further and lately you have been less serious and less focused on your career.

C. They are furious and storm into their boss’s office demanding a reason for the pay gap.

4. You call your guy, who is attending a bachelor party. He is having a good time. Meanwhile, you’re at home watching a rerun of “Batman.” You:

A. Tell him that when he is ready to go home, you will be waiting for him with open arms.

B. Make him feel guilty, but tell him you love him and have fun.

C. Yell at him that you want him home by midnight or it’s over.

5. Your partner tells you that an attractive young woman started blatantly flirting with him while she was having drinks with her friends. How do you feel?

A. You are flattered that an attractive young woman thinks your partner is as handsome and adorable as you are.

B. Like you want to cry. The thought of him enjoying his attention or flirting back turns your stomach.

C. Upset that he didn’t tell her to back off, but it probably won’t even cross your mind tomorrow.

6. You heard that your best friend from high school recently got married. Meanwhile, you haven’t been on a date in three months. How do you feel?

R. Like a loser. If she can get married, why can’t you?

B. Happy for her. She was the one who dated the most in her group; it was likely that she would marry first.

C. Angry and upset. You would make a better wife than her.

7. A co-worker lost 20 pounds in 8 weeks and looks great, while you’ve been on a diet for six months and only lost 5 pounds. When he asks how your weight loss is going, do you:

A. Tell him, “Not as good as yours, but at least I’m not starving.”

B. Make a face and say, “Okay. Slowly but surely.”

C. Saying, “Not as good as yours! You look fabulous. What eating plan did you use?”

8. Your parents bought your younger brother a new car. You never got a car from your parents, not even gas money. You:

A. He is happy that his brother has what he wants, but he prefers to work for his own possessions.

B. Call your parents screaming and crying, demanding to know why you never received something so big from them.

C. They are upset, but their brother was always the favorite son.

9. You recently started dating someone and find out that they still frequently talk to their ex on the phone. You:

A. Tell him that you admire the fact that you have remained friends after the breakup.

B. Demand that he stop talking to you if he wants this to go further with you.

C. Ask her if she would consider breaking off contact with her, if their relationship became serious. If he says no, you have the answer you need, because you deserve to have an exclusive relationship with no baggage.

10. You’re looking in a mirror in a dress you’re considering buying when a woman twice your age walks out of the dressing room in the same dress and she looks better than you. You:

A. Look her up and down hoping she thinks you don’t approve.

B. Sigh, go back to the changing room and take off the dress, it doesn’t fit your figure well.

C. Tell her the dress looks great on her and ask her what her secret is to looking so young.

The green-eyed monster has you by the tail if you answered the questions as follows:

1 C; 2-B; 3-C; 4-C; 5-B; 6-A; 7-A; 8-B; 9-B; 10A

The green-eyed monster has nothing against you if you answered the following questions:

1 B; 2 C; 3-B; 4-A; 5-A; 6-B; 7-C; 8-A; 9-C; 10-C

The green-eyed monster is one step away from having you by the tail if you answered the following questions:

1-A; 2-A; 3-A; 4-B; 5-C; 6C; 7-B; 8-C; 9-A; 10-B